In 2014, an asteroid crashed into the earth. This happens far more frequently than we hear of, and most of these items either burn up in the atmospheric entry phase or are so small that they make little to no splash, newsworthy or literal.
However, this one from 2014… was JUST now acknowledged by the government and NASA officials as having originated from outside our solar system. It was intergalactic. From which one, I’m not sure, but I’m sure “things” aren’t all perfectly equal from galaxy to galaxy, just going on a pure numbers-type driven logic. I also don’t even the exact specifics of what I’d be referencing, but let’s just set an example of “Oh, and by the way, in THAT galaxy, it’s normal to walk sideways on the walls.” Visitors from that galaxy, coming to Earth, would be thinking “You people are crazy with this “gravity being down” thing.” And everyone would just accept that as a difference between galactic residents.
But their air and atmosphere and cellular particles within those things would also be a tad different. Breathable, probably, but still different on an inherent level. And that’s what has happened to humans, and I suspect that we’ve had previous intergalactic flotsam and jetsam over the centuries, we just didn’t know it. When those comets/asteroids/spatial dingleberries have crashed (the bigger ones) and slammed into…wherever…Alabama. India. Timbuktu. Mesquite….(who knows?) they’ve been reduced to rubble. Broken Space Rock. Galaxy Dust. no, Intergalactic Galaxy Dust, and there’s that weird genetic mutation now, just free floating out there among all us gravity-loving Earth humans.
Some of us had no reaction to this but others…well, it’s apparent now that others weren’t so lucky. It COULD account for the increase in mass shooters; people who were having a normal Starbuck coffee day and then just cracked, went home, got their legally-obtained guns and decided to shoot 20 or more people. Shoulda ordered half caff, maybe. It’s those politicians that make crazed out-of-this-world statements (see what I did there?) that they SEEM to actually believe but those of us GLH’s see for the crazy whatever statement represents, yet the masses seem to not be able to affect any change. And at the worst infestation levels, it’s those people in the stories we read about the fathers or mothers who wipe out their other half, their kids, and the family dog all in one afternoon because they wanted them to “all be together”. They must live near a crash site and got overdosed ’cause that’s just pure crazy, even walking sideways.
It could also be the reason behind the real thing I’m writing about here: Hurt Between Friends.
Maybe friendships don’t mean as much to the general public as they once did. I’m 56 years old, and for me, my friends have always been at the utmost top of my care list, right next to family members, and some friends even higher. And yes, I’ve made my share of mistakes, thankfully most all in the distant past, that have damaged those friendship and hurt the people involved. I’ve spent many years not only apologizing and attempting to fix those hurts where I could, because I was engaged enough to know that I’d caused the hurt. When you realize that, as a GLH or other you must acknowledge the hurt and try to fix it. Sometimes you can, sometimes you can’t, but at least you made the effort. Some of those involved will never talk to me again, and I have to accept that, and I’ve tried very very hard over the last 20 years especially to not be one of those people causing the hurt. Some of the events are well over 30 years ago, and I’ve tried reaching out to most involved – some have responded, some have not, but again, at least I did make that attempt.
So, THAT’S where “the deciding factor” when it comes to Hurt Between Friends comes into play. In a world when things are kapisch and going smooth with everyone, there are bound to be events that unintentionally cause one of a party of friends to become hurt. Of special note there is the word unintentionally. (Keep track of that and if you don’t know the meaning of that word, which you should, please go look it up.). A truly unintentional hurt toward a friend is purely and simply that: Not meant to cause hurt or harm to the other person by an action on the firsts’ part. A decision made with other intended outcome that accidentally caused hurt. As big boys and girls should do, an apology is made, you say you’re sorry, things are validated with real explanations, assurances made that it was NOT meant to cause hurt, and you move on with life, friendship retained, holding hands waiting for the ice cream truck to make the corner ”cause you’ve got enough change in your pocket” for both of you to get one.
HOWEVER, there is a 2nd kind of Hurt Between. I’ve left the word “Friends” off there because a friendship usually can’t withstand that one. That’s the hurt that is done WITH INTENT. An action taken or a decision made INTENTIONALLY that the originator KNOWS will hurt the other one if not immediately, then when the action is discovered. Depending on the emotions of the recipient, this damage is often as physical as a stab with a very sharp knife right into the heart where emotions and love and trust are kept. When that type of hurt is inflicted, the pain is intense, immediate, and the depths of which may not all ooze out at one time, but take weeks to leak out to their demise. That’s because those escaping emotions are heavy with the love of that person, and with close relationships, it is very hard to accept the fact that someone who has been close to you, that you’ve laughed with, cherished important “life” moments with, held their kid, or played with their dog, or cried to and/or with, experienced the passing of family members, gotten new jobs, shared secrets with, supported with whatever goodness your heart had… could perform that kind of act toward you, if you base it on all the things that have built your relationship with.
Especially now, as I approach my 60’s, and having lost four of the most important friends – actually lost them as in “they died” – and close relationships that I’d ever had in my entire life within a 24 month period of time several years ago – people I would have thrown myself in front of a bus for and had known since my teens or earlier – people I’ll never get to see or talk to again because the bigger picture decided that it was better with them GONE – yes especially now, I’m not going to chase or cling to ANYONE regardless of how close we’ve been – if they perform Hurt Between Type 2, the INTENTIONAL one. Forgive? Sure, it’s what God wants us to do with our anger and angst about life especially since it’s not a positive forward moving thing to hold onto that hurt. Forget? Nope. With the number one reason being, if you “forget” that a person has done that hurt – performed, decided, intentionally set out with any action to HARM your emotional well-being, well, the chances of them repeating that action regardless of words promised, etc., is just too great. For anyone that does the intentional hurt, in my eyes, could never have been as close of a person/friend/being, etc., that you originally considered them to be. And for me, it makes that person immediately “disqualified” from true & future closeness. Having taken that chance in earlier years – even past an age where I realized I had done that in the past – it’s not a chance I’ll take again in these upcoming so-called “Golden Years”.
Maybe the folks who can do this to people they call “good friends” or more just lived too close to a crash site in Timbuktu, and got affected by the Intergalactic Space Dust. It’s what I’m going to believe, and that’s just a damn shame. Yep, that’s it, I’m sure of it.
